A secular or civil wedding gives you complete freedom over every word of your invitation, which is exactly the chance to sound like yourselves rather than a template. Instead of verses, fixed religious formulas or the lines everyone uses, you can build wording that says who you are, invites warmly, and earns a smile before anyone reaches the venue. Here is how to do it well, with three ready examples you can copy and adapt.

What makes wording secular and personal

Secular wording is not defined by what it leaves out but by what it puts in: you. Instead of opening with parents’ names and a traditional blessing, you open with the couple and a line that feels like a conversation in your living room.

  • First names at the top, not titles or overly formal phrasing.
  • A short line that says something real: how you met, what you love, or why now.
  • A natural speaking voice, as if you were inviting a close friend rather than mailing a formal letter.
  • Zero verses and zero religious formulas, unless you genuinely want them.

If you are torn between formal and personal, it helps to review the general principles in our guide to wedding invitation wording, then decide how loose to go.

The five details you cannot skip

Even the most relaxed invitation still has to carry information. A guest who gets a gorgeous invitation but cannot tell when or where simply will not show up. Make sure every version includes:

  • Who is marrying: the couple’s names, stated clearly.
  • When: day, Hebrew and Gregorian date, and reception time.
  • Where: the name of the hall or event garden and the full address.
  • How to get there: a Waze or Google Maps link, plus a word on parking if relevant.
  • How to RSVP: an RSVP button, and sometimes a gift link via Bit or PayBox.

The beauty of a digital invitation is that all of these sit together inside WhatsApp. The guest taps Waze, confirms attendance and sends a gift without leaving the message. We covered all of these advantages in the complete guide to digital wedding invitations.

Where to add humor without overdoing it

Humor works best as seasoning, not the main course. One smiling line is enough to signal that this evening will be fun, without the guest mistaking the joke for the address.

We found each other at an especially dull work team-building night, and it turned out to be worth it. Come celebrate with us before we change our minds. Please RSVP, and bring comfortable shoes.

Notice that even in the funny version we kept a clear invitation and an RSVP request. The humor touches your relationship, not the logistics.

Three ready examples for a secular wedding

Here are three ready versions in three different tones. Pick the one that feels most like you, then swap in names, dates and venue.

The warm and personal version:

Daniel and Shira are getting married. After seven years, two dogs and one rented apartment, it is finally time. Join us on Friday, July 3, 2026, from 7:00 PM at the Nof HaCarmel event garden. Reception, great food and plenty of dancing. RSVP and navigation in the buttons below.

The short and breezy version:

That’s it, we are doing this. Noa and Itai invite you to celebrate. Wednesday, August 12, 2026, 8:00 PM, the HaDekel halls in Rishon LeZion. Come hungry and in a good mood. Please RSVP below.

The version that honors the families too:

With great joy, and together with our families, we, Yael and Omer, invite you to our wedding. See you on Thursday, June 25, 2026, from 7:30 PM, at the Sadot event garden in the valley. RSVP, a Waze route and a Bit gift option are waiting for you right here.

Final tips before you send

Before you send the wording to your whole guest list, run through a few small things that make a big difference.

  • Read it out loud: if a line sounds forced when you say it, it will read forced to them too.
  • Keep a sensible length: secular wording can be short, and a busy guest will read a five-line invitation faster than a long paragraph.
  • Test the links: make sure Waze leads to the right entrance and that the RSVP button works from a phone.
  • Send it to yourself first: send the invitation to your own WhatsApp and see it exactly as a guest will.

The wording is your voice, but the digital wrapper is what actually brings the guests in. When you are ready, choose the package that suits you and continue with us on WhatsApp. We would love to design an invitation that sounds exactly like you.